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Hang in there

I see this more and more as time passes. I can now look back at times of utter despair and hopelessness in my life and realize that those times directed me to where I was  meant to be at this moment. So when you are being knocked around, whether it be in your professional life, relationships or you just don’t feel like you are the person you want to be, Hang In There. Where you are today is not a direct reflection of where you could be tomorrow. Relocation of yourself may take weeks, months or years, so hang in there during the shaking and rearranging of your world.

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It’s taken me sometime to understand this principle, let alone practice it. I hope you take the time to read this because I believe you too will be empowered by it.

There are times when I find myself just plan dang miserably angry at a person, a situation or just life in general. Then I pause and ask myself am I really changing anything by being this way? I’m serious, think about it for a second. As you sit there just full of anger and sourness, whatever it is you are mad at feels none of that and may be right as rain. You literally are drinking poison and thinking the other person or situation will be effected by it. Your emotions have no direct impact on either, so on top of the anger you are feeling….you are adding this toxic element also.

I’ll give you a personal example that just happened to me last night. I was angry at the way a girl had been treating me, so I was stewing over it sleeplessly in my bed. Once I became aware of what I was doing I asked myself is my current state even effecting the person I’m angry at or am I just reaping it’s horrible effects And that’s when I decided not to let them nor anger, hurt or control me. So either let your anger be known or just let it go all together because it is a poison that is hurting and effecting you more than you know, GET IT OUT….LET IT GO. I try to live by another motto also, “If you can’t control it, don’t let it control you”.

hopeI saw this last night and had to share it. This is such an empowering way to look at the trails and pain that we go through. Having this train of thought allows us to tap into one of the most powerful sources of strength that we have access to…HOPE. Hope in my opinion is one of the most important tools that we have to turn our dreams and aspirations into reality. Our dreams are the seed and hope is the water. I know what hope has allowed me to accomplish to this point, and I plan on fueling my tank with it’s bottomless reservoir till the end. So next time you feel the weight of your struggles pulling at you, stay hopeful that it will soon release you and send you flying towards greatness.

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This definitely doesn’t mean ACT without regard to possible dangers and repercussions. I believe it’s telling us to ACT in such a way that we are not looking for something in return or expecting a predetermined result from our actions. We set ourselves up for disappointment if we do otherwise.

Take our relationships and interactions with people for example. In some instances if you really examine where some of our problems start we’ll see that it starts with us and our unspoken EXPECTATIONS. For instance, let’s say you do something for someone, whatever it may be, and they don’t react or reciprocate in the way you expected, you now feel hurt, disappointed, shorted or angry. This is all happening while the recipient has no idea of your preconceived EXPECTATIONS that you had pertaining to this event or for them.

However, if we choose to ACT WITHOUT EXPECTATION in respects to our kinds acts for one another and truly do it unselfishly, we will never be disappointed because we did it without expecting any certain result from it. Whatever happens, happens. I’m going to try to make a concerted effort live my life free from the bondage of expectations. Come what may, whether it be something or nothing. The definition of surprise just so happens to be a completely unexpected occurrence. I guess we’ll be living a life full of surprises then 🙂

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Finally after years of unappreciative takers I have found someone that epitomizes this quote. For a time there I thought my expectations were too high or unattainable because I always felt short ended. I was merely searching for someone who would reciprocate what I was dishing out. That’s not too much to ask right?? Like the whole golden rule deal, treat others as you would like to be treated. As I trudged my way through relationships full of compromise, arguments and tension I thought to myself this can’t be the way it has to be. Then I would would try to rationalize these sorry excuses for relationships to myself by saying, “no one is perfect, these sorts of things come with relationships”. This is not true people! There are over 7 billion humans on this planet, there must be at least one out there that you can seamlessly interact and communicate with all while respecting and appreciating each other in the utmost.

So don’t sell yourself short. Don’t enter a relationship where you have lowered your own bar of expectations. Don’t settle for less than what you deserve.

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Jim Carrey

 

The other day I was thinking to myself I wonder if some of these celebrities that many of us assume are so happy and have so much are truly fulfilled. Plus many of them weren’t born into wealth or fame, so this gives them a priceless perception concerning the subject. Then a few days later I just so happened to stumble upon this quote by total coincidence. Upon reading it my mind instantly began processing the possible beautiful and conflicting truth in it. He adds so much credibility to it because I had read where Jim Carrey was struggling or breaking even like many of us are, earlier in his own life. So this bit of information gave his quote even more legitimacy in my opinion.

I later came across numerous comments discussing these quoted words that examined from many points of view. Here are some of the ones I found most interesting:

  • Jim Carrey grew up dirt poor. he lived in a van with his family. i think he would know if having money really is the answer
  • Honestly, I’d rather have money and not knowing the answer than being broke and not knowing the answer.
  • Sorry, but I’m struggling to get myself fed every day, so don’t mind me, I’m just going to stand in the corner and envy you, Jim.
  • They say that money cannot buy one happiness, but nothing can cause depression and suicide like poverty.
  • Cool. But money could buy me endless travel, which I believe would be more fulfilling than endless desk time.
  • Still would rather have the problems that come with having money than the problems that come with not having money.
  • True happiness does come from within. *nod*
  • It’s funny how Jim Carrey only mentioned having an excess of what is needed to live yet everyone gets all anal pained over how poverty is hell. The quote doesn’t even say that money doesn’t buy happiness, it specifically mentions only being rich and famous.