It Hurts You More Than You Know

Posted: December 11, 2013 in Relationships & Life
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It’s taken me sometime to understand this principle, let alone practice it. I hope you take the time to read this because I believe you too will be empowered by it.

There are times when I find myself just plan dang miserably angry at a person, a situation or just life in general. Then I pause and ask myself am I really changing anything by being this way? I’m serious, think about it for a second. As you sit there just full of anger and sourness, whatever it is you are mad at feels none of that and may be right as rain. You literally are drinking poison and thinking the other person or situation will be effected by it. Your emotions have no direct impact on either, so on top of the anger you are feeling….you are adding this toxic element also.

I’ll give you a personal example that just happened to me last night. I was angry at the way a girl had been treating me, so I was stewing over it sleeplessly in my bed. Once I became aware of what I was doing I asked myself is my current state even effecting the person I’m angry at or am I just reaping it’s horrible effects And that’s when I decided not to let them nor anger, hurt or control me. So either let your anger be known or just let it go all together because it is a poison that is hurting and effecting you more than you know, GET IT OUT….LET IT GO. I try to live by another motto also, “If you can’t control it, don’t let it control you”.

  1. Chaotiqual says:

    Reblogged this on Chaotiqual and commented:
    Is this the fiery thingy? πŸ˜‰ Hope you’re doing ok and when all else fails, just go, ohmmmmm. πŸ™‚

    • Rahburt says:

      you are the fiery thing! πŸ™‚ thank you, i’m doing pretty darn well at the moment and not having to ohmmmmm very much at all. you still in my country? and thanks for reblogging!

      • Chaotiqual says:

        Oh that’s good to hear, you just keep right on smiling πŸ™‚ No I’m not in your country, haven’t been for quite some time, otherwise I would’ve dropped in for some tea. πŸ˜‰

      • Rahburt says:

        Ha, well you could have dropped in for some while you “were” here. It might have been sweet tea though πŸ™‚

  2. aFrankAngle says:

    Odds are all of us have been there … but you have presented it as a way that we should challenge ourselves. Great post.

  3. ashadeofpen says:

    I am not the one to call names but the girl is silly to treat you the way she did.. you’re awesome and you know it πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚

  4. mewhoami says:

    This is very true. Anger and bitterness is poison to us, not them. This post also reminded me of this quote: “He who makes you angry, controls you.”

    • robertmudge says:

      It’s very hard to understand that in our most angry state. Ah, very nice quote. And that is quite true. We in fact do give up control to whatever we’re angry with.

  5. Terri says:

    Oh God, yes, this is so true, Robert. In fact, I was just telling a friend earlier today how she shouldn’t think someone doesn’t like her until she knows for a fact, that’s true. We project so many of our emotions and thoughts onto others and waste so much energy by doing so. When I start to feel angry like you said you were in your post, there is a saying I remind myself of “it takes much less energy to be indifferent than to hate.” And it helps, at least for me, anyway. Sorry to hear some girl might be treating you poorly, try to not let it get to you. If she’s the right person for you, you will know.

    • robertmudge says:

      great advice for your friend…choose knowing over assuming. thanks for sharing that saying too, that will reverberate in my mind know also :). that’s ok it helped me become the person i am today and helped me find the current great girl. you are right, you will know. it just works.

  6. Terri says:

    And with that, I’m sending this link to your post on to my friend – I’m sure it will help.

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