What is normal?

The other day I started thinking about What Is Normal? Yeah, I know I’ve been on this earth long enough that I should have already thought about this, ha. I mainly thought of this because I tend to put a lot of pressure and stress on myself in thinking I should be doing this or that by this point in my life. But why do we do that? Why do we think we should fit a certain mold or follow a certain track?Β In my opinion it’s society and/or what we see in the media. I don’t know of any book or absolute rule in existence that tells us what weight we should be, who we should love, when we should marry, how much money we should make, when to have children…This list could go on and I’m sure you could think of some yourself.

Like the image above says, normal is purely subjective. I had a thought the other day that looked further into this concept:

What is normal?


Alright I created a video to accompany this post and in spite of my fear of making and posting it, here it is:

  1. Tutti says:

    Great that you made a video!
    This “normal thing” busied my mind a very long time. Years!

    But normal doesn’t necessarily means to be good. We are all unique, so better lets do this voluntary πŸ™‚ I claim, we torture ourself we we try to fullfill other peoples ideas. Which peple get famos- the weirdos. Why? They do what they love and what they are made for.

    • Rahburt says:

      ha, thank you. it was nerve racking. i checked out your “normal” post πŸ™‚

      totally agree. normal doesn’t always mean good. sometimes it just means status quo. we do torture ourselves by trying to fill others’ expectations. thanks for sharing that great entry too πŸ™‚

  2. I was just thinking about this the other day. I started work about a month ago, I’m 22 it’s my first job and I am surrounded by people who are younger and yet have more experience. I actually felt like something was wrong with me for being ‘slow’ but learnt to accept, slowly that I am me, and the fact that my life is ‘slow’ doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with me.

  3. per mare... says:

    “Create your own normal” Sounds like a plan. I work with kids who are “creating their own normal” to survive in today’s world. I reckon you should come over here…down under to give an inspirational speech…to their “normal” teachers! The kids are fine, imho. πŸ™‚

    • Rahburt says:

      i’m glad you agree :D. that sounds like a great excuse to come over there, ha. so are you saying the teachers are trying to steer them into the direction of a co called “normal” life?

  4. It’s good to see you Rahburt! πŸ™‚ And I completely agree with what you are saying, and I think you’d find it difficult to find someone who didn’t agree with you – we all suffer from time to time with thoughts of ‘Am I normal? Should I be doing things this way or that?’ And they are rubbish thoughts really. The only thing that matters is how we feel about how are lives are going, and if we are not happy with certain aspects, then if it’s possible without enormous stress, change it. It’s good to have a makeover – but not because we feel we have to look or act like someone else! πŸ™‚

    I’m a person who likes to spend a lot of time on my own, and yet I know others who are always socializing in one form or another, because without it they feel they’d go crazy! I’m lucky that the friends I do have are people who all believe that normal is different for different people, I think that makes living life as you want it a lot easier on your mind. I pity those that have friends and family who put pressure on them to be someone other than who they naturally are. That’s a stress we can all do without! πŸ˜€

    • Rahburt says:

      thank you Suzy πŸ™‚ well i know a lot of people that are threatened by this idea because they don’t even realize they are being steered and directed by such things. i’m glad to hear you agree though :). and i agree thoughts like that do tend to just stress us out or make us feel inapt.

      i think a balance is good. i’m kind of the same way as you. i can be alone and i’m fine with it. i think it’s paramount for us to be comfortable with ourselves and like you said not go crazy. that’s awesome you are surrounded my like minded people. that does make things easier. ha, i hear you! i’ve had to work on some people so they stopped holding me to certain standards that really only existed because they created them.

  5. ashadeofpen says:

    ur tweet is super rocking…i vl go to ur profile..hunt it down and retweet it… i am so abnormal and i love it πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚

  6. ashadeofpen says:

    and i had to write this but i clicked on comment before I could complete the comment.. ur accent is groovy..super groovy πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚

  7. shianwrites says:

    There is nothing normal about this post. It’s so cool that you made a video. You went outside the box, sometimes normal can be way too boring, serious or judemential. Awesome post Rahburt.

  8. Chatty Owl says:

    Yep, totally agree, of course. We define the terms ourselves, create some sort of norms and then when something or someone doesn’t fit those norms within those boundaries, we discard that person or act as something that’s not normal. I used to question this too, a while ago, until I realised that the biggest gift is to learn to live without trying to please the others, but rather be content with who you are and in a way that makes you the most happy. Dont let anybody decide what’s good for you. Only you know best.

    • Rahburt says:

      i also agree with what you said and i’m ashamed when i catch myself doing that. when i look at someone and judge based on what i think is normal. it’s something i try to actively fight. and yes you are point on in saying that we should strive to be content with ourselves and not base our happiness on what the world says is happiness. thanks for flying by owl πŸ™‚

  9. collynblake says:

    I love it! And I loved the video. I’m just learning the whole blog world, but I’m enjoying all the facets you show and how real your content is. I’m thinking of doing an accident story page and I saw you have one. You are an inspiration and I’m so glad you found my blog so that spurred me to find yours. Collyn

    • Rahburt says:

      Thanks so much, glad to hear it :). And thank you for your super kind review of my blog.

    • Rahburt says:

      I look forward to your update you were speaking of. Feel free to let me know if and when you do. And thanks for stopping by πŸ™‚

  10. GrowlTigger says:

    A brave, honest and really good post. πŸ™‚ Great to see that you have had a lot of positive comments too. I have been on this wavelength for a few years now – there is no such thing as normal! We are all individual, with some similarities and some differences.

    There is a growing rejection of media led ideas of what is normal, such as body shape and size. I don’t mean false ideas like the currently trendy ‘real women are curvy’ campaign, because that alienates naturally slim women and makes them feel like the new abnormal. The myth that real men are muscle bound is equally untrue. But that doesn’t mean that men aren’t free to be body builders, if they want to be, or that women aren’t free to be whatever size and shape they are comfortable with.

    As you mentioned in a reply to a comment, it is all a question of balance and freedom be ourselves.

    • Rahburt says:

      always enjoy and am flattered by your reviews buddy. yeah, i came to this when i came to the realization that i was putting too much pressure on myself and stressing myself out because there are so many “normal” standards and timetables out there concerning where you should be by a certain age.

      i think the perfect size for us to be is healthy. and whatever size that is is the one we should all aim for. that has nothing to do with others, or the media, or norms but rather just taking care of ourselves and being healthy.

      thanks for your kind, insightful and thought provoking comment.

  11. Sam Han says:

    It is great to see and HEAR you! Now I have your voice when reading your posts πŸ˜€

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  13. hastywords says:

    You are BEAUTIFUL and AMAZING….. Everytime I see your face…words…ideas I smile.

    • Rahburt says:

      what a fantastic thing to read from a fantastic and beautiful person! really appreciate it. made me smile and feel important πŸ™‚

  14. As many people around me might know by now – I’m nowhere near being what anyone sane would consider to be normal. Then again, no one can really say what is normal and what isn’t. It’s the same with being sane, unsane or insane. Now I know unsane isn’t officially a word but it’s a good contrast to the sane for insane makes you think someone just belongs in a mental hospital. No one can never tell if they’re either sane or unsane. It is like with many other things up to the people around us to be the judge of that. One can only be what they can be and what they are most comfortable with.
    Humans around me might consider me “not normal” due to the fact that I had to move back home after I failed to be happy in a relationship and broke it off for my own sake and safety, that I graduated but still am having a hard time finding a job despite my degree and title, that the humans my age that I used to go to school with are getting married/did get married and even have kids already.
    I consider myself lucky to be who I am, despite the anxiety attacks I suffer from now and then because of the cloud of pressure soaring above my head filled with one word only – Money.
    I don’t have any money and I can’t take part of the social activities as the rest of the humans my age, but I’m not suffering from that. I have my music. I have love in my life. I have my dog who gives me more joy by waking me up each morning by stomping on me than I’d ever get by just going out and drink alcohol and get pissed off at people trying to grab my ass on a dance floor.
    No, deep inside I am happy with who I am and what I am, even if I’m not living the so-called ‘Normal’ life. I’d also rather consider myself unsane than sane.

    To quote Alice in wonderland:
    “The Mad Hatter: Have I gone mad?
    Alice Kingsley: I’m afraid so. You’re entirely bonkers. But I’ll tell you a secret. All the best people are.”

    I believe she’s right.
    I’m a Mutant, it’s how I am most comfortable πŸ™‚
    There’s no such thing as normal, not normal, sane or unsane, it’s all about how others sees us and their opinion about us only.
    And as long as we’re happy with what and who we are, there’s no reason to pay attention to those who do not know you as well as you know yourself.


    ps. That poetryslam blog post about Touchscreen – absolutely amazing guy that one. And what you wrote, It’s all about seeing it through different perspectives I reckon. πŸ™‚ Stay well!

    • robertmudge says:

      Like you said there is no real definition of normal. I guess one could say when you are a danger to yourself or others then there is a norm, but outside of that who knows. I mean show me this timeline that most seem to think exists. The one that tells us what we “should be” doing by what age. And I totally get what you are saying about money. But also just think about those people out there that are completely living of the earth and totally getting by with little to no money. Now that is my idea of bliss. No time schedule and no socioeconomic pressures. Another thing to consider is the fact that we are human and are happiness is so wishy washy and always changing. If we were free from the influences of media and their images of success, it would also help.

      Thanks for sharing your insightful and personal feelings concerning this. Love the Alice in wonderland quote by the way. I remember that part vividly. Like you, I too am also happy with me and my normal, but there are times when that cloud of pressure also parks itself over my head too.

  15. Sue Vincent says:

    If normal means conforming to the expectations of society, then count me out. If normal means trying to live as me in the best way I can, and with a whole heart…that’s a different matter.

    • robertmudge says:

      then i suggest you choose the latter :). sometimes it’s tough to not feel pressured by the norms of society though.

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